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Why Monitoring Your Child’s Diet Will Not Give Them an Eating Disorder

admin January 15, 2016

For whatever reason, there is sometimes nothing so controversial as food.

I have had more fights break out on my Facebook page over whether or not toddlers should have lollipops, than over vaccines.  Just think about that, for a minute.  Really think about it.  Over.a.crazy.lollipop.

The thing is, if you post that you don’t let your kids eat (McDonalds/sugar/gluten/food dyes/etc.) then some people will think you are crazy.  They will say that you are ruining your kid’s childhood.  That you are depriving them of an essential experience.  That you are setting them up for massive rebellion later in life, and probably an eating disorder.

It’s even worse now that they’ve defined orthorexia, which is basically healthy eating taken to the extreme.  (Now — if you’re literally obsessed over every single bite you put into your mouth, would rather starve than eat something slightly below your standards, and allow this to consume your life, then yeah, you probably have an eating disorder.  But it’s more likely about control or anxiety than about healthy eating.  Choosing to eat mindfully, at least most of the time, is not a disorder at all.)

At any rate — no.  You will not give your child an eating disorder because you monitor their diet.  Really.

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Why Monitoring Your Child’s Diet Will Not Give Them an Eating Disorder

When my kids were smaller — and, this is still true for most of them — they would simply eat whatever they wanted when I wasn’t looking.  If they were in church and were offered a dye-filled bag of fruit snacks, they would take it.  (We do tell the church not to do this, but sometimes new volunteers don’t know.)  They were too young to understand why they shouldn’t eat those.

We simply told them not to, and explained to them why not, and tried to always provide their own healthy snacks instead.  Sometimes they took the church snack even when I brought their own, because…why not.  But, this is actually very typical behavior for small children and not a sign that somehow, your rules are “ruining” them or causing some crazy rebellion.

My 8-year-old now understands the “food rules,” and even knows why.  She’ll tell others what they can and can’t have, and will explain it to them.  She can, and has, said “no” in the face of great temptation.

The point is, all you need to do is teach your kids “why.”

If your kids know why then they can develop their own “food rules” over time.  Many parents allow their kids the occasional “cheat,” and many kids realize that these foods don’t make them feel very well, so they don’t eat them very often.  They learn, for themselves, why some foods are better avoided, or at least enjoyed on special occasions only.

And you absolutely should teach them why.  You should teach them how to make conscientious decisions about their food.  They need to understand what we’re doing, and how it impacts them.  When they do, they will learn to make good choices for themselves (at least most of the time).

Junk Food is Not Essential to Childhood

Many of us have memories of Lik-a-Stik (or whatever that fruit-flavored, tart powder with a white stick candy was called), pixie sticks, kool-aid, McDonald’s Happy Meals, and so on.  Maybe we always made s’mores on the Fourth of July or baked sugar cookies at Christmas.

But those are our memories.  And usually, they’re memories not because of the food itself, but because of what surrounded it.  My friends and I used to eat the candy when we went roller skating on Friday nights — and it was the being out with friends and roller skating (and buying our own snacks) that was a big deal, not the candy.  Or baking cookies…it’s probably because you did it with your parents or grandparents with Christmas music playing and it was the feeling of the season — not the cookies.

Either way, they may have been essential parts of your childhood, but they are not essential parts of all childhood.  Kids don’t need anything specific to make memories.  They can and will make memories in many different ways.

Our older boys are making memories when they sit on their tablets and my husband is on his laptop, and they all play Minecraft together over the internet.  We’re making memories when we put dinner on the table family-style and eat together (no matter what we’re eating).  We’re making memories when we chat together before bed.  It’s our attention they want and enjoy…not candy.

Just remember that your child’s memories do not have to reflect your own memories.  You might feel wistful that they aren’t experiencing the things you found special as a child, but they aren’t.  They’ve never done it, so they have no idea.

Create Your Own Food Memories

Of course, no one’s advocating for being so strict with your child’s diet that you never, ever allow any kind of treats.  Who wants to micromanage every bite that goes into their child’s mouth, anyway?  (At least beyond the first 8 – 12 months…I am pretty strict that no one can feed my exclusively breastfed baby anything!)

Enjoy non-sweet foods — maybe your child loves your homemade mac and cheese (comfort food!).  Or maybe it’s roast chicken and mashed potatoes (a meal I loved as a kid).

Or, enjoy the occasional homemade treat.  Healthier cookies, ice pops, muffins, and so on.  There’s no reason that you can’t make these yourself, with good ingredients.

Bottom line, just because your kids don’t eat utter junk food or “mainstream” food does not mean that you are ruining their lives or giving them an eating disorder.  That is plainly silly.

Go on, mama, and do what you’re doing.  You’ve got this. 🙂

Do you know that you will not give your child an eating disorder if you offer only healthy food?

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4 Comments

  1. i think people who struggle with weight are more likely to develop an eating disorder, so feeding your child eat junk food all the time would be more likely to give them an eating disorder than feeding them healthy food.

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  2. I must say, I went to McDonalds once when I was 16 and made a friend take a picture, which I then printed out and provocatively left in the living room to rebel against my hippie-mom! ;-P I still feel like a naughty girl if I eat there. But that is as far as my rebellion went.

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  3. I grew up in a house where my mom absolutely monitored our diets, similar to yours.. we had to call home even if offered something new at a friends house. I didn’t even try soda til I moved to college.. we knew why, and all that.
    I have had an eating disorder since age 10 (I’m 32 now and after therapy, hospitalization, etc.. I’m better, but no one truly recovers). My brother, starting around the same time, maybe a little after, starting with his own eating disorder – binge eating. He has been obese for about 20 years now.

    Eating disorders are about control. Not about food. That’s just where it starts.
    I’m not saying you’re wrong with your message, I’m saying, perhaps you don’t fully understand what YOU are saying. Look into eating disorders more..

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    • We are not promoting eating disorders and do not control every bite our children take.

      We read labels, and sometimes they have a choice to eat the “junk” anyway. We have treats sometimes. They get to make their own decisions when I’m not around…and for the most part, after about age 7, they make good ones. Trust me…I’m not about controlling my children, I am about educating.

      I’m sorry you had a bad experience and have an eating disorder, but we don’t.

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